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197: Ménage of the Month

February 5, 2018 at 8:00AM • 1 hour 18 minutes • Wiki Entry

This awkward week we're talking about personality-shifting boyfriends, strange rejections, and the complications of diffidence. Questions/comments/stories/whatevers? Call/text 509-AWKWARD or visit for more options!

Special guest: Chelsea Beck, creator and host of the Ménage a Moi podcast!

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Awkward Situation of the Week: Tennis, as usual. This one's a little complicated to summarize. :)

This Week's Questions:

  • Regenold Farquad asks, "Good Day to you Adam, I am indeed checking back and have found the episode on 5by5 (its still playing Richards pod cast for that episode on spotify), It is now showing me all the new episodes within my spotify account though so thank you for resolving that as it is a very convenient way to track where I am and I look forward to the day where I am in real time and can start to catch up on the other pod cast I've neglected for the last year. Many Thanks Regenold Farquad"
  • Anonymous Darren-Lover (SM?) asks, "Hello awkward humans. I'm a student and I asked a girl that I really liked if she would date me a few months ago. The verdict was no. I was sad but I understood that I couldn't do anything about it. What really messed with me was the reason. The reason she couldn't date me was that according to her I was untrustworthy, calculative, scary and she was too stupid for me. But the ironic part was that she still wanted to be friends with me. It's not like I treated her badly. If any thing I treated her very well. For example, I stayed about an hour after school to explain math problems to her on multiple occasions, I took her out for coffee, I even stayed up till 2am to explain her how algebra works on a weeknight. And it's not like it was a one way relationship. She would text me everyday after school telling me if I was ok and if I was tired or not, she was the only friend to give me a birthday present, she would always catch up to me and walk to home room with me, she even told my friend that she wanted to date me. I don't know what I did to her to make her change her mind but the fact that the person that I actually liked in a long time called me untrustworthy and calculative haunts me to this day. I really want to forget everything about her but I have to see her every day at home room, math class, English class, chemistry class, and very other class (I go to school in Japan and in Japan we take all of our classes with our home room members, I'm not sure how it works in America) so it's hard to ignore a person who is sitting in front of you during group work. What should I do? I'm pretty sure that the wise minds of the awkward human podcast can help me. PS. I personally really love Darren's sarcastic jokes and his voice. He always makes my day! Thanks Darren and I hope to hear more of you. Thanks!"
  • Josh (SM/14) asks, "hi my fake name is josh and I'm 14. what do I do if I'm shy and like a girl? how do I ask her out without betraying my ways? can I do it without having to ask like normal or can I get her to ask me?"
  • Jinnie (SF/20s) asks, "How do you deal with a sudden change in someone's behavior? It was as if my boyfriend woke up a different person last week. He had his memories and thought he was himself but he was different. Like very different. Before he was caustic and sarcastic (but in like a fun way) and now he still has sarcasm except it's like nice somehow? He asks me about my day and pays me compliments. It's nice but it's not who he is! I'm a little unnerved because I didn't ask for this. He started doing it and I don't know why. It's not just that. Like he's more caring in every way. I feel so weird from feeling weird about this. Like I asked him why he's in such a good mood lately and he just shrugged. I didn't want to push on him for an answer because people aren't buttons but I really want to know what's happening to him! Do you know any usual reasons for something like this?"

Special Segment: A discussion about female masturbation with Chelsea Beck, host of the Ménage a Moi podcast!

Final Thoughts: How much do you love Darren? You can let him know on Instagram!