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Hosted by Adam Dachis, Darren Herczeg, Erica Elson, and Richard Cardenas.

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185: A Very Weird Sensation

October 8, 2017 at 7:00PM • 1 hour 8 minutes • Wiki Entry

This awkward week we're talking about bi-curiosity, new gays, and the best friend versus boyfriend dilemma. Questions/comments/stories/whatevers? Call/text 509-AWKWARD or visit for more options!

Special Guest: Adam's sister Ali Dachis, while on a road trip!

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Awkward Situation of the Week: Ali phones in her maid of honor duties, Richard has an affair with incontinence, and Erica helps her mom...not get elected for public office?

This Week's Questions:

  • Maria (24/SF) asks, "Hello everyone! First of all I want to thank you for a great podcast, you guys have saved so many boring days at work! I'm 24 years old, female and straight. And you guys can call me Maria as you would never pronounce my real name correctly and I would prefer it not to be said in the podcast anyway. I think my question might be bit strange and silly but here we go anyway. How do I know if I am bi/lesbian? I am in a relationship and have always been in relationships with guys and I have never even made out with a women unless if you count some drunken kisses with friends. Though I have always found women quite attractive and they turn me on and this feeling has been getting stronger lately. I quite often masturbate for the thought of a woman and even look up for sexy pictures or lesbian porn. And I don't think I would say no if I got a chance to hook up with a woman, if I was single I mean. I still do love my boyfriend very much and we are happy and I am not planning on breaking up with him, but I guess I just would like to know whats going on with me and to know where are these thoughts coming from. But does finding women sexually attractive make me bi or does straight people go thru thoughts like this as well? Should I tell my boyfriend about these feelings? You hear these stories of people realizing they are gay many many years later, but are they usually people who just haven't accepted what they were when they were teenager, or can you honestly just randomly one day go from straight to gay? Sorry for a messy question and hopefully it makes at least some sense! Thank you so much!"
  • Always Been Single (24/GM) asks, "Hi Awkward Humans, I'm a 24 year old gay man who's never been in a relationship, but I've had a couple of dates and hookups. It took me a while to reconcile personal religious beliefs with my sexuality, so I haven't been ready to date for very long. I'm moving to San Francisco soon and don't want to look like an idiot as I explore the dating scene. Is my lack of experience going to be a turn off to other guys? I'm more interested in something that could evolve into relationship and not so much the random hookups. How can I navigate all of this in a healthy way? Thanks for the entertaining and helpful podcast and for taking the time to answer."
  • Apparently I'm a Slut (16/F) asks, "For the awkward human survival guide. So I (16 y/o female) recently started dating my first boyfriend (also 16). I've been doing my best to evenly split my time between my friends and my bf. Like I'll spend half the day/lunch hour/class with my bf then the other half with my friends. One of my friends is super supportive and accepting but my other friend is getting out of control. She is constantly calling me a slut whenever my bf and I are together but like really passive aggressive cough-talking. Behind my back she is calling me a slut and similar things and I wouldn't care normally but it's my best friend and I don't want to lose her. She was not like this before and I don't know what to do. I wrote in because she won't even talk to me unless it's to call me a slut and has started to take it out on my bf and I'm hoping you would have some advice. She was a really good friend for years before this and I don't want to just drop her but she's staring to cause problems in my relationship and I don't want that to continue into adulthood. I'm not dating or flirty or anything with any other guys so I don't know why she would call me a slut. She is a Mormon if that helps..? Also I really enjoy listening to your podcast :)"

Special Segment: :)

Final Thoughts: Don't forget to let life surprise you! Sometimes the surprise is not just diarrhea.

Related Links:

  • The New Awkward Human Web Site!: It's, like, more professional and stuff. But more important it has information about all of our new shows so you can go check them out (though you'll also find links below this one, too!) and see what we're working on releasing in the near future. Some of it is kind of crazy!
  • Cocktail Movie Recap: Richard's new show about getting drunk and recapping movies! Go watch the first episode (it's hilarious) and learn to make the Kiss Me Not cocktail (it's very refreshing, and you can make it with iced tea if you're like Adam and don't like alcohol).
  • What's Wrong With You?: Sarah's new show about famous/successful/creative/smart/funny/awesome people failing in ways you've never imagined. Well, maybe sometimes. But if you've ever wanted to feel like someone who accomplished something amazing was just like you, well, you need to listen to this. And you should regardless, because there's so much to learn from the failures of others. If nothing else, the show demonstrates the importance of vulnerability and finding comfort in your own flaws. That, in and of itself, is a superpower.
  • Sex Safari: If you wish we covered more sex-specific topics on Awkward, you should be listening to Sex Safari. You should anyway if you want to learn about all aspects of sex, sensuality, and relationships because Paul and Denise are well-versed in many aspects of non-traditional means of loving and fucking (and everything in between). They take an approach where they learn with you and try to make these edgy topics more accessible to the average person, as well as all us weirdos, through actual experience and lots of awesome guests in the kink community. While we give broader advice on Awkward, if you've ever wanted to take a deeper dive into a sex topic or learn about something specific you should listen to Sex Safari. And if you have a topic you want Paul and Denise to cover, you can contact them and ask (via the contact page on the linked site). They are eager to answer questions from their fans and listeners.